Where is life going wrong?
- appleskeats
- Nov 26, 2022
- 4 min read
Updated: Jun 17
Before you read:
Jesus Christ forgive me! It's been more than 6 months maybe since my last blogpost. This was in drafts so I have displaced a fraction of my work in another hour of the day to write here.
Don't know what I'll be writing about anyway
Life gets better and a huge perspective shift. This is
Where is life going wrong?
(perspective based)
(Nope, it's not going to be a bulky monthly motivation speech; Get up, Don't waste your time, Be stronger, NO)
Perspectives, their professions or passions leave a great impact on how they view things. The vocabulary of a writer and a lawyer would be different, one might view the world with the lens of fiction and nihilistic view, one might take it as a suspicious scandal going on, a teacher would see everything knowledgeable while a student might see what he likes. But they change with time
#1 : Work
Times ago, just like everyone else, I had these beliefs too
“Follow your passion”
“Do whatever you love to do”
“9-5 Jobs sucks. Chase your dream, live your dream”
Many others similar to these. Yea, it's definitely true to have a dream and working to chase it is a no crime.
However, there has been quite a lot of changes in these thoughts.
As you grow older, the dreams of having a five storey house with jacuzzi isn't a “dream” anymore. The world of illusions is collided with the voidness of realities. That becomes a goal.
You don't necessarily have to find the job that you love, you can love the job you have.
Look, you only live once.
If you're going to spend your life always switching jobs just to find that "one" job, you already would have a good time wasted.
Take school for instance.
There's one point in our lives when we realise that school knowledge does not go hand in hand with the balance sheets of the companies or the development statuses, so we don't really take that stuff seriously.
But have you ever wondered why not we take that school knowledge either way? First 15 years of your life, you're a student having only one option: study, there's no other option so why not choose it?
If you give a closer look at it, you'd find that whatever we are being taught in school actually helps a lot in life but the fact is we're not being taught in the right way.
There's no practical implementation of the formulaes we learn or of the chemical equations, but as yk you can only control whatever you actually CAN.
You just have to be curious, hard work ain't hard work then.
Similarly, the job you currently have can be done with actual enthusiasm if you're willing to do that, at least until you find that dream job, these smaller jobs are the different paths of your destination.
We are habitual of certain comments and certain thoughts on certain subjects, thus we don't really take the efforts of digging in the depth or try to look that thing from other perspective.
Change perspective you might already be livin' a good life.
#2 : Relationships
When I was younger, I was picturized a perfect picture of a perfect relationship, no matter a sibling relationship, a mom dad relationship, a teacher student relationship
where both people always available for each other and stuff.
We all have watched a lot of Disney movies, girls dreaming to be a cindrella and wait for a prince to dance with, boys might waited for a mermaid to have. Truth is
Life is not a Disney movie
When you grow up
(I mean really GROW UP)
you will see it was a big lie.
Many people complain to feel lonely, feel sad, missing someone, missing their ex, missing their Y (lol) but yea.
The truth is, no matter how close someone is to you, you can't expect them to show up every time to feel lonely or every time you feel down. They will be there for you, yes, it's your life, un-sharable with someone, and IT IS OKAY
It is very normal to do things on your own despite having someone there for you or celebrating birthdays alone.
As mentioned in one of the previous blogs, we, humans tend to expand any emotion so much that it gets hard to let it go.
We make fuss about every little bad thing we go through most of the times. Not good.
Another thing i have learnt is, we are being fed with a lot of crap at a young time and we forget to clean it.
Our present situations take a toll on our minds and we start to predict our future based on it.
One famous example would be, suppose if you get into a relationship, and it's been couple of months being together.
You'd probably start setting up both of yours' futures together, would make “Stay with me Forever” promises or "I'll bring you the stars” commitments.
WHY? I mean why?
You have 50 tasks assigned that are meant to be completed first before giving time for that relationship.
Priorities change everyday and you have other relationships too that are meant to be given equal importance and priority.
You cannot neglect the world just for having that one relationship and you can't complain
If you look into the real world, you'd find the happiness hidden between the adjustments, the fights, the regrets, the misunderstandings but you know people live.
You hate some people, you hate some things but have you ever thought how much joy your hate is costing you?
Its like when you hate the amount of happiness you would've gotten was replaced by the amount of a anger and hatred.
The point is,
You only live once
There are lot of things that could be done, having a limited source of happiness wouldn't work, just love the present moment
Change perspective, change your way of life you might notice these little changes and it could be amazing!
Have a look on previous blogs for similar content
Thank you for reading! I must've forget to add a lot of points but definitely into the next one.
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