Advices; life taking or life saving? You decide
- appleskeats
- Mar 12, 2023
- 5 min read
Updated: Oct 10, 2023
This is not going to be another 'motivational' 'never give up' or be yourself' kind of shit. Some glimpses from my 2022 and my half 2023 that i perceived as '"Lessons", something no one can get rid of, and no one can have all of either.
1. 'Be yourself'....... like what?
Must have heard this everywhere. Whether let it be cousin's 4th uncle's Whatsapp status on Monday mornings or the "quote of the day' written on a campus's blackboard.
I mean, let's see what it means..... to be yourself, without letting the society's weekly trends affect us or without letting anyone feel us we are not perfect the way we are. Because we ARE. But it's important to pull a 180 degree on this.
Most of the times,
We procrastinate and we develop bad habits, in such times can we cannot tell ourselves
"bro, let's be ourselves" you don't want to whoosh all your money straight into the hospital's ass.
Look, every coin has two sides.
Society has all the bad and irrational social media shit that you see but there are also things that you should inculcate in yourself, when you're mentally and physically unhealthy as in those times you'd sell rugs if you will "be yourself".
People can also contribute in your well being, above all the answer is it depends.
Developing your self in all areas and having an open minds towards the good things can bring major assets.
lesson learnt: skepticism can unleash the hidden areas of yourself, it is vital to question and be curious about the established beliefs and ideas that we are taught while growing up,
Everything that we have has some meanings and can lead us to better paths if we are wiling to let ourselves view things differently.
2. Bad days make good days better
Yea, without bad days you will not value good days. it's about time you know. Didn't know that Time is more than present tense, future tense and past tense back then, but with experiences we grow.
When your knee gets hit to a big-ass wooden table, world's all kind of pains collaborate and jumps into that injury, the first 10 seconds are of immense pain and you don't really care if your bone is broken, you just want to get rid off that pain.
people. are. that wooden table.
Hard situations are often blessing in disguise. we cry over people we lost due to any circumstance.
I like crying, it's good.
What is essential can't be said in a 4-min blog but it's beneficial to take corrective measures to get ourselves on the track, exploring makes it better. do all the things that you hate.
Like I don't like sports, I'm not into football, AT ALL, I don't like it.
(hey, Messi fan, I know you're enraged at this but you don't want people looking at your minion face, so calm down)
we let our beliefs take over the situation or either see things with too much logic, situations aren't shaped with respect to our POVs.
god's plan : best plan,
it is unexpected and indeed in your favour (just ensure your life has a majority of good deeds too)
lesson learnt: God ain't working in a dish washing shop to drop your hearts like plates and break them ruthlessly.
Don't let the sadness consume the spaces in your life that are meant for happiness.
It is okay if people say NO,
its okay if they walk away, people who want good for you, people who love you will enter,
things DO happen for a GOOD REASON brother.
3. Faith is not a synonym of success
Nope, this won't be a heavy philosophy to bear. it's very simple. work, and don't worry about the results,
Not sure if any atheist reading but it's for everyone, dont believe on god, okay! but at least believe.
Have faith in yourselves, your dedication, your partners, everyone who contribute in lifting you up in every aspect.
We tend to forget that having faith does not means having success, "have believe and you'll achieve everything you want" . NO. Bullshit
Having faith does not mean predicting the results of having it, just HAVE IT.
lesson learnt: again, having faith does not mean predicting the results of having it, just HAVE IT.
Last year taught me something like "Remove faith from something and it is no more" faith is a very soul of everything.
4. Gratitude
This one's my favorite. we often don't actually think about this, it is important to appreciate people and it is vital to thank them, gratitude acts like a fuel.
Just Imagine, someone comes home at 11 PM, after working all day, exhausted, tired and maybe fed up, that one unexpected text
"Thank you so much for everything, I must've said before but i couldn't"
(A similar kind of situations, do not get too logical boys)
It could really pour a smile on their face and that one second would turn a moment of exhaustion into a moment of liveliness as
lesson learnt: who don't like surprises??? just bomb their nights with such heart hitting but melting thank you texts.
What if your one text prevents someone from jumping off the cliff? (Ha-ha, this is too much but) people in this age need it, as who don't want to feel loved and valued.
5. Love languages : Only set of language that Duolingo does not teach you
Know Love languages (esp. for those love birds kind of people). joking. It is NECCESSARY for all kind of people and all sorts of relationships.
Basically, What I mean is it is okay to tell people that "quality time" is my love language and I feel loved when quality time when xyz spends quality time with me.
I think Communication is not the key in relationships if understanding is not what it's made of.
Guys out there, learn to talk about that, be vulnerable where it is necessary.
If you're not doing this,
you might somewhere be feeling upset for not having something done for you by the other person and you don't want it.
It might also create confusions
In my knowledge, we have 5 types of them
Words of affirmation.
Quality time.
Physical touch.
Acts of service.
Receiving gifts.
lesson learnt: Communication is not the key in relationships if understanding is not what it's made of.
You can randomly just drop a "i like when xyz..." no big deal (Again it should make sense)
Next time might write about the cringe habits of people in relationships have like some of them like trust me, they do
Thank you peeps and aunties
Ig: @eightin18
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