Signs you are in a FAKE Relationship
- appleskeats
- Jul 4, 2023
- 5 min read
Before we began
Today I am here with another blog. I thought it'd be a great idea to give break to the blogs written about internet things, and get in touch with
the previous topics too and with that said
Here is another blogpost about our favorite topic
"Relationships"
Fake relationships.
Now to me that sounds like a scam. Fake relationships...… like fake plastic??
Okay, no that wasn't the right logic.
Fake relationship is where the individual/individuals involved in a relationship love you, care for you.
They'll mention how much you matter to them but their actions show the opposite.
Simply, they pretend to be in a relationship when they ARE NOT REALLY into it
A relationship is made with the hopes of potential, to be with your significant other all way along your life,
Thus it's necessary to note and clarify if they have the same aim or if they're just playing the short term..
Since every human that we interact with, do not carry a label on their foreheads saying "Pro at faking relationship, with 3 Years+ Experience" or
"Master of Gaslighting" etcetera etcetera.
It's different
how will you recognize this color changing human chameleon,
How will you know if someone is not serious about their relationship
(Romantic Relationship; to be specific)
and are faking it?
That's right!
By reading my blogs,
So let's get ahead.
They keep secrets that shouldn't be kept as "secrets"
What kind of secrets? Well, every individual owns his/her own individuality in a relationship, which means they can have their own friends too,
do the things that they like even if their partner doesn't, like reading books,
Just like that,
If a person wants privacy in a relationship (although they love their
partner so much) still doesn't find sharing every detail comfortable
Not telling their partner about an embarrassing moment they encountered, is OKAY! That secret is fine as it's a random thing, it doesn't affect any major aspect of that relationship neither in the present nor later.
But, if the secrets involves
not telling your partner where you spent your weekend,
who your friends are,
you spend that night at your old friend's house when your partner was out of station,
what job you do,
and serious things that aren't as minor
as the above example.
That is suspicious, and could be a sign that it is a fake relationship.
Even if your partner might get jealous, hurt or disappointed with you,
regardless of the consequences,
without caring what their reaction will be,
If you're being honest with them and are keeping things to their knowledge too,
You're going great.
No matter how shameful you feel admitting a mistake or sad you'd feel,
Tell your partner.
Lacking intimacy... 'Emotional' Intimacy
Physical intimacy is commonly common so it can be confusing some times when someone claims they love you and you can connect them on a physical level
but on an emotional level,
they put their hands up.
LOL
Emotional intimacy plays a vital role in connecting both partners on an emotional level and make them feel emotionally connected which helps both of them to feel each other in hard times, also uplift them whenever they're pushed down mentally.
Yes, I guess it's all about "Feelings"
( I sort of overused the feelings term here)
In simple words, emotional intimacy means being emotionally closer.
It is being open to the unhealed wounds, to the things from the past,
being with each other in the fragile phases and being each other's backbone in their hours of struggle.
The DO NOT: Now, mostly people, especially men deal with problems when it comes to
"emotional intimacy".
It's not an easy thing,
it takes it's own time,
it comes with tons of patience, time, understanding and courage.
You should be willing to give that time to your partner, as it is a main pillar of any relationship it is valid to invest certain skills for such longer amount of time.
So as a note,
do not misunderstand and go to your partner and accuse them of faking
their relationship
instead if you want to do a good work,
You can make a donation 10 gram of patience
.
.
It was a bit out of context, I guess.
(Sorry)
.
Okay, this is a case if the relationship is real,
but if the relationship is "fake" things to focus on are;
Are they 'trying' to get to know you emotionally?
Do they look worried when you have an emotional breakdown in front of them?
Do they inquire about your feelings and take an effort to make you 'feel alright'?
Are they respecting and taking care of your opinions and emotions?
Do you both have your "us" thing beyond the physical bond?
Even someone in a real relationship may run out of answers to all questions, but they'd answer at least 3 of them.
As sometimes, for instance,
In long distance relationships people don't get to encounter these things often,
as a result, they don't have any knowledge about their partner's depression
unless informed about,
but they don't make it an excuse to be emotionally unavailable
The bond is still tried to be made through various ways
(Again, this situation is when the relationship is 'real')
But if no such trials are being made by either of the partners or both partners,
The moral of your story will be:
"Friends with benefits"
It's just a fling
Compromise is your best friend only
Do stress that “only” in the title. It's actually kind of foolish to write one point individually and explain it.
They're just too many signs and this is the main one.
If you're the only one always settling for the less and giving the best to your partner but are not being treated the same way.
Something's not right.
You know... there are some couple things?
Where if something bad happens to you you are desperate to share it with your partner as fast as you can so you literally run as if you're playing an Olympic game.
When your partner is ready to compromise, to adjust with you as much as you do, therefore they do mind giving the last peice of chocolate brownie to you,
Knowing it's their childhood favourite food
Well it doesn't mean one should kick off the better option everytime
but when in need to have a
it should be both of you.
You will adjust in the beginning but at one point it gets tiresome when it's just “you”
Puts you in a lonely spot.
Similar to this, several traits continues in the list that symbolises the seriousness of your partner in your relationship.
Some people are not that courageous enough to say it clearly but even then you catch the signs through their actions and behaviour.
Though not everytime, but your partner should be your first priority some times, keeping the world and other plans beside.
It does a lot of things,
especially if makes your partner feel they are valuable to you and hold importance for them.
You wouldn't have to say that to them
(only if they're smart like me)
Im not saying this from a psychological perspective, this is my personal opinion (disclaimer (ing) you)
But I think if you're in a fake relationship, you'd just get it, you know. Not immediately but surely.
If no efforts are being taken for me, and in the perspective of the relationship I'm in,
I can see where the relationship is going and the seriousness of my partner
(calm down, I said “if” )
Too much of something is not good,
So read me in the next blog
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